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The United States has a lot of high school grads and their parents, but some people just aren’t into it.
A survey of more than 200,000 adults conducted by the University of Texas at Austin and the University at Buffalo found that only 26% of parents and grandparents want their children to marry someone who’s a student at a school in their family.
The findings are alarming, given that the average age of a US bachelor’s degree recipient is just 18, according to a 2013 National Survey of Family Growth.
In contrast, almost 90% of the adults surveyed said they would want their own child to go to a college degree, and 75% said they were open to a daughter graduating from a college or university.
According to the poll, which surveyed 2,058 adults between October and December, 75% of respondents said their child would “absolutely” or “generally” like to attend college.
However, only 39% of those who responded to the survey said their daughter would be a great match for a future wife or girlfriend.
While the findings raise concerns that our generation may not have the best prospects for the future, some parents are embracing the trend, according the survey.
“I think we’re starting to see that our kids have a very different perception of who they are as a person,” said Amanda Rader, an assistant professor of communication at UT-Austin and a mother of two.
“They don’t feel they’re valued or are worthy of being with us.
They feel like, ‘Oh, I’m just not good enough, I don’t deserve this.’
They feel they can’t do it.”
A study of 1,400 college graduates by the Graduate Record Project found that just 21% said their students would be “very satisfied” with the relationship between them and their family if they graduated.
The same study also found that students in families where the parents were married or cohabited were far more likely to say that they would be happy with their current relationship.
The United States also has one of the highest rates of domestic violence in the world.
The University of Buffalo surveyed 1,000 parents of graduate students about their perceptions of their children and found that 40% of them had experienced abuse.
That compares with 24% of US adults, according a report by the Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault National Network.
The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) found that 1,500 American children were at risk of being victims of sexual exploitation and abuse in 2014.
In the US, the number of people who are sexually exploited every day is on the rise, according NCMEC, which has counted 1,800 incidents of sexual abuse last year.
“Sexual exploitation is a very serious problem in the United States,” said Jessica Ditto, director of NCMec.
“It is a global problem and it is affecting children in a very specific way.”
Rader said she was concerned about the impact of this epidemic.
“It’s not that we’re just seeing the symptoms of it,” she said.
“We’re seeing the epidemic itself.”
The NCMESN recently released a report on the prevalence of domestic abuse, with an accompanying infographic.
The infographic showed that more than 2.4 million women and 1.7 million men were sexually exploited.
Some parents, however, are taking a different approach.
Samantha M. Miller, a clinical psychologist and director of clinical training at Gracie University, is working with women who have experienced sexual abuse.
Miller said she has been approached by many women who were sexually abused as children, and she said they are “really not afraid of being alone” in their own experiences.
“The reason I think we have a stigma about sexual assault is because we don’t really know what it is,” she told ABC News.
“And so for a lot kids, they don’t know what’s happening to them, they just think it’s a scary thing that happened.”
Miller said there are some positive changes that can be made for children, including having their parents around.
“I think that the more people who know what sexual abuse is, the better chance we have for children to be empowered and have an open and honest conversation,” she added.
Rader is also concerned that this epidemic may be affecting people who may have been previously sexualized.
“For a lot, they have a really difficult relationship with their bodies and the ways that they’re sexually abused,” she explained.
For Rader and Miller, however the good news is that it’s not over.
“What we’re seeing now is a real change,” said Miller.
“There are really positive changes for these kids, and I think that this is an important step.”